If you are a woman leader, others look up to you for advise, wisdom, and action. Just being a woman in leadership doesn’t mean you don’t face self-esteem issues at times. Here are 7 self-esteem issues faced by many women in leadership positions.
1. Doubt. It’s not unusual to doubt yourself as a leader. Doubt comes from feeling that you’re not up to the task of being the one in charge. It’s important to remember that you don’t have to know everything. You just have to know enough to find the information you need to deal with the tasks in front of you at any moment.
2. Unfinished Projects. It is detrimental to your self-esteem to feel that your rarely get things finished. Leadership means needing to multitask but working on several projects at once can mean having a lot of loose ends at the same time too. It’s important to know when you have actually reached the end of what you are required to accomplish with any project. Sometimes, you have finished but don’t realize it because you delegated the final touches to someone else. You have to know what being finished means for any task. Make a list of your projects to see what’s really finished and what’s not. Do what you can and then move on.
3. Incomplete Ideas. Leaders are expected to come up with ideas. Others look for you to tell them what to do and to know how to solve problems. You might feel that you’re jumping from one idea to the next. In reality, you might be using several of your ideas but maybe not the complete idea as you originally thought of it. Leadership can move fast. Write down your ideas. Use the portions that fit with the issues at hand and save other portion of your good ideas fro another time, or let them go. Your creative mind will come up with new ideas when you need them.
4. Feel Like a Fake. Did leadership come very quickly to you? Maybe you made a statement that was inspiring or took the reigns on an important issue at just the right time and the rest of the people designated you the leader. If leadership came to you quickly you might not feel up to the task or even feel that you are a fake. You don’t have to remain in a leadership role forever. Complete the issue you were put in charge of and then move on. If you remain as the leader, build your leadership skills so you feel comfortable in the position.
5. Need a Mentor. Women in leadership often lack the support and mentoring that is given to men in leadership. This can cause you to feel alone and lonely when you’re making decisions that affect the lives of others. Seek your own mentors. It might start with reading a biography of another leader and gleaning leadership ideas. Look for leaders in your area and see if you can take her to lunch to discuss issues. There are ways to approach others to be your mentor or you can find an executive coach to help you along in a confidential manner.
6. Need Support. Being in a leadership role can be a time consuming task. It’s important to have support to do tasks and to take some of the load off your plate. Being overworked and worn out is bad for your self-esteem so do take the leadership initiative to do something about it. If you don’t already have help, be pro-active to select someone to work with you even if it’s in a volunteer position. The benefit to you will be relief from some tasks. The benefit to the other person is to get grooming for a future leadership role.
7. Stressed out. Being stressed for sustained periods of time affected your levels of confidence and self-esteem. Leadership can be a stressful position. The need to constantly make a decision, be in the spot light and have the right answers is stressful. As a leader you will need to take control of your schedule and find ways to manage your time to leave space for adequate self-care. If you don’t take care of you, no one else will. Step up the plate, know when to say no, and keep your health in tack to have a high self-self-esteem.
Being in the role of leadership means needing to solid self-esteem. Not all women in leadership have the self-esteem required to be a strong leader. But knowing some of the trouble areas can help you build your self-esteem. You will know how to make decisions that let you get the support and mentoring needed to have a good self-esteem for leadership success.
Consuelo Meux, PhD. owns the Confident Business Women programs for women who are determined to succeed in life and business. Women learn to embrace levels of confidence needed to maximize success and to live an authentic life on purpose. Find out about the upcoming Embracing Confidence Program or join the monthly Confident Women Cafe. Go to the website to find out how at http://www.confidentbusinesswomen.com
Author: Consuelo Meux